When Independence Softens
Loosening self reliance and inviting in connection
Today I’m offering an exploration of inviting help from others. To be still in vulnerability and move out of hyper-independence by showing that you’re in an uncomfortable place and you need support in realising your vision.
This ritual is inspired by my experience with my Sydney podcast series and the challenges I faced venturing into a location where I had no connections. I started the Wā Podcast because I wanted to travel the world and connect in person, to really ground my brand in different cultures. But it’s tough when you’re reaching out to people and they don’t know who you are and through this I faced a lot of rejection. This experience taught me that sometimes, even when you have something wonderful to offer, you need to ask for a little help to open the door.
The Ritual
Set Your Intention: In a quiet space, set the intention that you’re open to connection. Hold something meaningful and remind yourself that this is about building trust and relationships.
Acknowledge Your Independence: Write down why you value your independence, and then write down why asking for help is also powerful. This balances both sides of who you are.
Craft Your Ask: Think of something you need support with and write it down as a gentle request. Be kind to yourself as you do it.
Reach Out: Choose a couple of people to share your request with and be clear that you are asking for help with something meaningful. Often, people will respond warmly when they understand it’s part of something meaningful.
Reflect and Receive: After you have made your ask, take a moment to reflect on how it feels and let yourself be open to whatever comes back.
I hope you enjoy this ritual as much as I did.
With aroha, Cleo x
